One of the more interesting challenges I face as an author is writing believable dialog, especially when the conflict has intensified and the characters are feeling the pressure. Those are the times when an, "oh my goodness gracious me," just won't cut it. But then again, I don't want to take it too far the other way and risk offending you, my readers, as I'm aware that some of you have certain limits as to what language is and isn't appropriate.
When necessary, my characters will say an occasional, "damn," or "hell," and oftentimes that's enough to make the point. Sometimes a character, usually a villain, may call a woman a, "bitch," or even a, "whore," but since he or she is the bad guy, the character is meant to be offensive. I want you to hate my villains. They're not meant to be nice people.
There may also be occasions when a character may exclaim, "son of a bitch." This might happen if they're suddenly shocked or surprised by something. It can also happen when they're referring to a male villain who's done something outrageous. Again, my villains aren't meant to be nice. They're supposed to make other characters angry, and dialog is the most effective way for them to express their anger. It's also the kind of language we hear in real life when someone is angry.
There are, however, places where I draw the line. First and foremost is using the Lord's name as a curse word. While I may not overtly religious, I still believe in God, so to me, it's disrespectful. That's why you'll never hear any of my characters, not even the villains, saying the, "G-damn," word, or using the names, "Jesus," or "Christ," as curse words.
The other word I won't use is the "f-bomb," as some readers simply find it too offensive. This can be tricky, as there are some situations when even a, "what the hell," may not be enough. On those occasions I'll have another character interrupt just in time. That way the word is implied, but not actually said.
I realize there are some folks out there who may even find the word, "damn," offensive, but as an author, I know I can't be all things to all readers. I'll also be the first to admit that my novels aren't for everyone. So if you're looking for a good, sensual romance, with believable characters who speak the way that real people talk, but without being potty mouths, you've come to the right place.